Are You Holding On To Things?

​Change is inevitable, even for those of us who dislike change. I write about this quite a lot, probably because I have in the past resisted change a LOT. You know we hold on to things way too much. We are so afraid to let go of things and move on in life. We become so attached to things believing that this is the only way. If we are to grow, it cannot happen without change, and if we don't make the changes, then something will come along and force us to make changes.

For those of us who are "awake," the call of change starts as a gentle nudge somewhere deep inside of us, a whisper from our intuition that something is out of alignment. It's usually small things, like the pull to redecorate the house or go somewhere new or a nagging doubt about the work that you are doing all of which creates that feeling of misalignment within us. And if we are "asleep" or only half "awake" or resisting change and growth we miss the deeper call of that nudge and we focus on making small changes, maybe we redecorate the house and feel better for a while. Or maybe we go to work for a new employer. 

For a little while, we feel a bit better. But then that nudge comes again. This time it's a little stronger.  It's more like a tug a pull to shake things up a little and if we are "awake" we listen, but if we are only half "awake' or "asleep" this tug can lead to feelings of frustration, fear, resentment, anger or even jealously.  Oh, and if you are "asleep" something outside of you will tug so hard it forces you to make those changes!

What are you holding onto right now in your life that you know must change? What little nudges or whispers have you been getting? What are you so attached to that you are prepared to put up with this feeling of misalignment or unhappiness in the way you feel about you and your life because you are scared or fearful of change?

 To grow, we must let go of the things that keep us stuck, regardless of whether it's a physical thing or a mental thing we are attached too. We cannot expect to grow either personally or professionally if we are not prepared to let go and drop our attachments to "things". And neither can we grow if we think "I'll hold on to this, while I try this out for size and see if that fit's better, and if it does then, I will make the change."

If you want growth in any part of your life, and I mean any! Change must happen. You can either embrace the changes, dance with your fear and jump all in. Or you can dig your heels in and hang on to all that stuff that's stopping you move forward and continue feeling the way you feel until you have nothing left to give anymore.

I challenge you to take a good honest look at your life and ask yourself if I didn't have any fears especially those around being judged by others or those around money (these are two of the biggest things that hold you back).  What would I stop doing right now? What attachments would I let go off? Where would I take a leap of faith and just go for it? All out go for it??

And if you feel unable, even to ask yourself these questions and be completely honest with yourself, then can I suggest that maybe you are so fearful of change that the easier option for you is to sleep and wait for a wake-up call, that will inevitably knock on your door one day.

Be you!
Be happy!
Be love!
Avril <3 xx
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